Enjoy the Silence

The toddler room at school sent out an email last night announcing a three day experiment of Silent Drop-off. They asked that, for the rest of the week, when dropping of our children parents not speak. They suggested using gestures, sign language, and (when absolutely necessary) whispers.

It was framed as a pedagogical tool to "allow the voices of the children to be heard". But I think they are just trying to tell us parents we are loud and obnoxious and hang around chatting too long each morning. And I'm not going to contradict that notion.

Anyway, we did as told this morning. We prepared both kids for this new system and they both did amazingly well. Tai spoke not a single word and in fact held a lengthy conversation with one of the teachers using sign language. Quynh started off whispering, "be quiet" and washed her hands in silence. With nothing to talk about, we were in and out of there in about 4 minutes. I hugged Quynh (already engaged in some activity at a table) and signed "I love you." She whispered it back to me before turning her attention back to what she was doing.

And that was it. I think it worked well. The kids all seemed happy and the parents didn't linger too long. But I wonder when the novelty will wear off.....and whether this system will continue past these next couple days?



PS - First blog post from the iPad. please forgive any typos.

Wine Club

All my fears about joining a book club have been realized.  Specifically, the fear that I am not motivated enough to actually read the books in time for the meetings.  I actually like reading, and some (though not all) of the books have seemed quite interesting.  It's just that I don't have much time during which I could read.  See below for graphical evidence:

A Day in My Life:

See that purple slice?  Not very big, is it?  Additionally, I have other things I'd like to do with my free time.  So when that precious sliver of time rolls around each evening, Reading a Book Someone Else Chose has to compete with television, movies, the hot tub, and precious sleep.  Not to mention paying the bills, folding the laundry, or even blogging.  Most nights the book loses.  And this is why I am only 60 pages into the book we are slated to discuss tomorrow night.  

Having been the student who always completed every assignment in school it is kind of liberating to be blatantly ignoring the main premise of a book club.  Luckily, I don't have to feel too guilty, as several of the other members of the club have the same problem.  At the last meeting exactly none of us had read the book.  Somehow, we still managed to chat for over two hours.

This is why I proposed dispensing with the pretext and just renaming it Wine Club.  But I guess some folks actually read the book this month, so maybe that won't work.  It's time for us to select a new bunch of books to read and I'm still holding out hope that if we choose fluffier, easier, more compelling books that I might actually get through them.  Yes, I need Book Club dumbed-down, apparently.     

Tonight, during my 2-ish hours of Free Time after the kids go to bed and before I fall asleep, I will feel zero pressure to read, as finishing the book  in time is now a lost cause.

Looooong Weekend

Playground
Visitors
Cupcakes
Movie
Sleepover
Bounce House
Birthday Cake
French Fries
TV
More cupcakes
More TV
Another sleepover
More TV
Another playground
Ice Cream
Another Movie

And we wonder why the kids were acting like over-tired-picky-eater-spoiled-brats by 5pm this evening.  Tomorrow we bring them back to school so the teachers can whip them back into shape.  Good luck to them.

Time Change

The best part of our recent "fall back" clock change is that it's light out early so I can walk the dog at 6:15am and even get back and sneak into the shower before anyone else is awake.  (Because the nature of the Morning Game is sleep-as-late-as-i-can-but-get-into-the-shower-before-the-kids-wake-so-that-when-they-do-wake-they-are-Minh's-problem).  Anyway, the light in the morning motivates me to drag my ass out of bed a tad earlier and walk the dog first thing.  I get fresh air and a little bit of exercise, as does she.  Win-win.

The worst thing about the clock change is that I can no longer leave work at 4pm with my sunglasses atop my head and pretend that they are there because of, you know, the sun.  (When really they are just there to hold my hair out of my face).  Somehow (as much as I want to) I can't bring myself to walk around at dusk with sunglasses on my head.  Apparently, even I have standards.

Three Years of Lions

Tai, October 2009

Tai, October 2010

Quynh, November 2011

Powerless

After three full days without power (well, actually with some spotty generator power, but no REAL power) we have done All The Things.  There is simply nothing left to do with a toddler and a preschooler that we have not done.

We went sledding, drank hot cocoa, made beaded necklaces, colored pictures, sculpted with play-dough, constructed a marble run, made puppets and held puppet shows, had playdates with neighbors and school friends, used precious bits of the ipad's batteries to play games and read stories, read actual paper books, and more books, and then some more books, drew on the windows with markers, goofed around with flashlights and lanterns, played hide-and-seek in total darkness, and adorned ourselves with Halloween-themed temporary tattoos (that are currently proving very difficult to wash off).

Thankfully, school was open today.  And the power is back on, so we can go back to being more reliant on electronic entertainment for the kids than I ever realized we were.

Farm to Table Project

My kids' school has a farm share and each week the pre-schoolers get to go pick up the veggies.  Then the teachers have to figure out what to do with all those veggies.  They have made kale chips, beet pancakes, apple-carrot muffins and who knows what else.  The preschoolers get to help with the cooking and then they all get to taste the dish and even provide a rating on how well they liked it.  It's like one of those smiley-face pain scales they hang on the wall in the hospital.  (You know, the one that you would laugh out loud at while you're pacing the room in labor.....if laughing were an option at that moment).  In this case, I believe the food-rating options are "really liked it", "just liked it", "kinda liked it", and "didn't like it."  I'll wait until Tai is a little older to lecture him on constructing a valid likert scale. 

Eventually, the teachers got smart and enlisted the help of a few pre-schoolers, mine included, to compose a letter home to parents asking for help with creative veggie recipes.  Tai embraced this project whole-heartedly.  Over the course of a week, I heard about this letter from Tai approximately 27 times.  I got, "Do you have any recipes that use beets?  kale? edamame?" and "Maybe we can make pumpkin bread or beef stew?"

He had me at beef stew.

I am not a great cook, but beef stew is one thing I can do.  And it uses potatoes and carrots and garlic and onions.  I figured I'd jump on that and let some other parent figure out what to do with the rutabagas.

Earlier this week I gathered veggies from the school's share and last night after dinner, my entire family worked together to make a huge crock-pot full of stew for the entire school.  I don't know how I didn't realize this ahead of time, but everything takes three times longer when working with kiddos.  It was extra work for us to keep manufacturing easy, safe jobs for Quynh.  To his credit, Tai peeled all the carrots, but it took him a good 35 minutes and some of them were peeled to within an inch of their life.  Ever seen a carrot with a waist?  I have.

After struggling for a while with a butter knife and a raw potato, Quynh request a sharper knife.  She was totally jealous that Minh got to chop the garlic with a cleaver. 

This morning my two kids, beaming with pride, delivered the stew to school.  They scooped some out right away and brought it to the infant room for their morning snack.  I can't wait to hear how it goes over in the toddler and pre-school rooms.  After all that work, I do hope they eat it. 

There's Always Time For Coffee

Last Saturday I had an unusually bad morning.  When the kids woke at the Crack of Six I let them come snuggle in our bed and watch about an hour of TV.  Usually this tactic gets me a decent chunk of light sleep.  But last Saturday Quynh was having none of it.  While Tai sat and calmly devoured his allotted Screen Time, Quynh talked, wiggled, and kicked, and sat on my chest.  For the entire hour.  I should have just gotten up with them and saved the precious TV time for later in the day when I needed a break.  

So, somewhere around 7:15am, bleary-eyed, I stumbled into the kitchen to rustle up some breakfast.   After serving my kids, I scooped myself a large serving of what I believed to be vanilla Greek yogurt, topped it with granola and took a huge bite. 

Alas, it was not yogurt, but sour cream.

OK, that was horrifyingly gross, but I recovered quickly.  I simply dumped it out and started over with the actual Greek yogurt (that happened ot be in exactly the same shape, size and color contianer as the sour cream.) 

After breakfast the kids started in with, "Can you play with me? Can we do a puppet show?  Can we do an art project?"  Not having to be at Tai's swim class until 9am, I figured I'd take my coffee into the play room and spend some quality time with the munchkins.

I then proceeded to pour a full cup of coffee and immediately knock it off the counter onto my (wood) kitchen floor.  Tai came running in the from the playroom to, basically, point out that I had made a huge mess.  Thanks, I hadn't noticed.

After I cleaned up the mess and poured a fresh coffee, the kids and I managed to have a wonderful time playing together.  We built a zoo out of blocks and plastic animals, and then drew pictures of animals to hang on the wall.  I helped Tai use stencils to make a sign that said "Lions eat Zebras and Wildebeests."  All the while, Tai and Quynh happily shared their toys and refrained from yelling at or hitting each other.  It was lovely.

Until I looked at the clock.  8:52am.

Swim class is at 9am.

That's when I started yelling.  "Tai, we need to go to swim class RIGHT NOW!  Take off your shorts, put on your bathing suit, now go put on your crocs and wait for me by the door!"

Surprisingly he did not resist this abrupt end to our morning playtime, but did exactly as he was told.  I ran around the house, grabbing his towel and a change of clothes for him, shouting a reminder at Minh that he and Quynh were to take the cats to the vet in half-an-hour, and then actually took the time to stop and make myself a travel mug of coffee.

Yup, while my son was waiting obediently by the door I took the time to make sure I'd have coffee to sip while I watched him swim.  Then we breezed out the door a whole 4 minutes after I'd checked the clock.   Just as I pulled the garage door shut behind me I heard Quynh, still playing quietly in the playroom call out, "Mama?"

Too late, we were gone--on a mission to not miss more than 15 minutes of the 45-minute class we had paid for.  As we started down the street Tai commented, "Woah, Mama, you're driving FAST!"

Luckily, swim class is only about 7 minutes from home.  By 9:15 Tai was in the pool and I was taking my seat among the other parents.  There I sat, un-showered, teeth un-brushed, with no makeup on.  But coffee in hand.  I have my priorities straight. 

Thank You, Coach and Tammy

Everything I know about football I learned by watching Friday Night Lights.  That is, on a Football Knowledge scale of 1 to 10, I come in right around 2.  This is a huge improvement, actually.  I really did pick up a thing or two watching that show.  Before that I was a -1. 


And it's a good thing too, because suddenly Tai is fascinated by the sport.  In the past three days alone I've had to (a) watch him line up his stuffed animals in opposing teams and execute a blitz, (b) "play" football with him in the backyard, to the best of my ability, and (c) watch 30 minutes of a Bears/Packers game on TV with him.

Watching football with that boy is quite the experience.  He asks questions every 6 seconds.  And, not knowing the football lingo as well as I should, my explanations are wordy.  By the time I'm halfway through explaining that, "that guy handed the ball off to the other guy, who threw it, but then it landed on the ground and that's called an incomplete pass (I think)" he's already asked two more questions. 

He is only four, so right now I can just about satisfy him with my "2" of Football Knowledge.  But soon that will not be enough.  Someday soon he will realize that football is not meant to be played one-one-on and that I've been letting him tackle me.  Soon he will realize that I have no idea what "first and 10"  or "2 minute warning"  or "2-point conversion" mean.  Not a freaking clue.  Luckily, Minh knows all that shit.

I don't know how long this interest in football will last.  Hopefully it will last a couple more weeks, because I just bought Tai and Minh tickets to a college football game.  But if this becomes one of Tai's true passions I'm going to have to learn a lot more about the sport.   Before having Tai, I never dreamed I'd know so much about dinosaurs or classical music.  Maybe football is next.

Favorite Things

It's been 18 days and the kids are pretty well settled into the new house.  So far, these are some of their favorite features (in no particular order):

*The Breakfast Bar.  Who knew that sitting on a stool and eating off the counter instead of at the dining room table could be So Much Fun?  They absolutely love the breakfast bar.  Each morning they sit up high and nibble their food, ask for more juice, and chat with me while I putter around the kitchen/eat something.  And because this arrangement puts them side-by-side instead of across from one another, they can really get on each other's nerves by touching, poking, kicking, and even just looking at each other.

*The Pool.  While it's officially closed for the season now, we did manage to get in it a few times.  The kids loved the idea of it.  They'd beg and beg and beg to go in on a sunny 78-degree day.  They'd stay in the 68-degree water for all of 3 minutes before shivering and asking to switch to the hot tub instead.

*The Hot Tub.  We had one at the old house and they made good use of it.  But this one is bigger.  Tai tries to swim laps while Quynh tiptoes around the middle--water up to her chin--with a huge smile on her face.  Oh, and then they argue incessantly about whether to turn the jets on or not.  Not the most relaxing atmosphere, but they have a good time and always need to be cajoled, bribed, or dragged out after about 20 minutes.

*The Rock.  There is a large rock out front, just the right size and shape for two kid bums.  It's about the same size, shape, and color as our dog.  Several times Minh and I have mistaken the rock for Buttons and wondered momentarily how she got out into the front yard.  It's also good for one kid to stand on and subsequently jump off of.  And Quynh frequently picks up mulch and scrapes it all over the surface of the rock for some reason known only to her.

*The Wildlife.  Every time we walk the dog around the neighborhood we see bunnies.  Every.Single.Time.  And what's better than bunnies?  Frogs.  Because you can catch them and hold them (wild bunnies rarely stand for that).  We've relocated a total of 5 frogs from our pool/hot tub to the nearby conservation area.  I wonder what the neighbors think, seeing us dump frogs from tupperware containers into the tall grass then walk away?  Finally, there are the spiders.    Boy, do we have spiders!  Luckily they are almost all in dark corners of the basement, but they are large and they are numerous.  Tai is fascinated with them and even suggested the other day that perhaps at his next birthday party we could organize a game of Spider Hunt for his guests.

I will now commence waiting for the phone to ring as you all chomp at the bit to come visit our new place, spiders and all.  

Where The Sidewalk Ends

Beginning Monday next Friday, this will be my new front yard.

Maine

Whenever we go on a trip, many funny or interesting things happen along the way and I think, "Oooh, I'll blog about that later."  And then when Later arrives I can't seem to remember any of the stories in detail, or I'm just too exhausted to re-write them.  So vacations always turn into bullet-point posts.  So here you go.

• My children CAN share a bedroom, as long as one goes to bed before the other.

• Tai enjoys the beach for about 2 hours at a time, then he's ready to go back inside.  We never found Quynh's natural beach limit, always having to coax her off the beach after 3+ hours of sand play.

• Speaking of limits, Tai usually announces he's all done about 2/3 of the way through an ice cream cone.  And one night he declined dessert altogether, opting to sit and watch the rest of us share a slice of chocolate cake.  Again, we have never seen Quynh reach her dessert limit.  Her ability to eat ice cream or anything chocolatey knows no bounds.

• The one limit of Quynh's we did learn is her Sitting Still Limit.  It seems to be about 20 minutes.  We learned this while on a 40-minute motor boat ride and then again on an hour-long Duck Tour.  We promptly cancelled the two-hour schooner ride we had originally planned.

• Although Quynh was fidgety, this year's Duck Boat experience was better than last year's.  Tai seemed to enjoy it and really paid attention to the narration, including the fact that Portland has burned to the ground no fewer than three times.  

• Tai now plans to be, "a scientist who studies all the creatures that live in Maine and write books about them" when he grows up.  And he's going to be awesome at it. 

• While at the beach, Tai's preferred spot is in among the tide pools, hunting for periwinkles and hermit crabs. And one day he dashed into the water, fully clothed, to retrieve a plastic shopping bag that had blown in, explaining, "some fish eat the plastic and could die!!" 

• While riding on a ferry, we tried to share with the kids the beautiful view across the bay.  But Tai was only interested in watching the mechanics of the ferry as it docked.  And Quynh was only interested in the people on the bench behind us.

• Once on the island, we started walking aimlessly, looking for something fun to do until it was time for lunch and ice cream.  I pulled up a map on my phone and announced that we were about to walk by a church, a library, and a playground.  If you know Tai well, it will come as no surprise that he was heartbroken to learn the library was closed.

• The member of the family who enjoyed the greatest increase in quality of life while on vacation was definitely Buttons.  She ran free on the beach twice daily, peed on seaweed, played with new doggy friends, but steered clear of the Scary Ocean Waves.

• While on vacation, Buttons behaved unusually well, Tai behaved unusually poorly, and Quynh decided she only eats potato chips, fritos, and dessert. 

• Quynh is so stubborn that the other night she chose to watch me eat her piece of whoopie pie rather than take the one tiny bite of scallop we asked of her in order to be granted Dessert Privileges.  Even after I put frosting on the scallop, she wouldn't touch it. 

• Tai collected numerous rocks, shells, and dead animal parts during the course of the week.  We encouraged him to return all but one favorite shell to the beach before returning home.  (We certainly don't want stinky crab legs at our house!)  On the last morning we took Buttons for her final walk on the beach and Tai brought his bucket-o-shells.  Just before he dumped them out he said into the bucket, "If there's another fire in Maine, call me."    

What I Did This Weekend

• Answered the "are we there yet?" question 6 times before we even got on the Pike.
• Swam before dinner.
• Zipped two kids into a tent, told them to go to sleep, and walked away.
• Regretted that decision.
• Vowed to delay moving Quynh to a Big Girl Bed for as long as humanly possible.   
• Stared longingly at our friends' pop-up camper and wondered how much we'd have to camp to justify that cost.
• Swam instead of napping.
• Laughed at my husband the first time he was bitten by a fish.
• Felt bad for laughing (and a little scared for my own safety) the second time he was bitten.
• Swam after dinner.
• Marveled at my son swimming, really swimming, in water over his head.
• Received so many mosquito bites on my feet and ankles that I look like I have some sort of pox.
• Wondered why we were sleeping in a tent instead of an air conditioned hotel, or our house. 
• Swam in the rain.
• Took my potty-training two year old to the campground bathroom to pee every time she asked me to.
• Saw an old friend, and his 3 kids.
• Paid a 9-year-old $2 for watching my kids for an hour.
• Packed up a wet tent (again) and swore never again to camp if there is even the slightest chance of rain (again).

Hungry Burglar

Last night I was awakened at 12am by the sound of my fridge beeping.  It beeps when you leave it open.  The thing is, I know I did not leave it open when I went to bed.  Clearly, someone had broken  into my house, fixed themselves a snack, and forgot to close the fridge.

Coincidentally, it was my last night sans-husband.  Because, usually, scaring away hungry burglars in the middle of the night is a Husband Thing.  But, alas, he was not there.  So I got up, grabbed the phone (you know, for calling 911) and the baseball bat that resides in the corner of the room and asked Buttons to accompany me out to the kitchen to investigate.  She promptly walked into her crate and curled up in a ball.  I considered the fact that she had not barked a good sign, but my irrational-sleepy-paranoid-self was still sure I had to go shut the fridge and be sure no one was out there.

So off to the kitchen I went, phone in one hand, baseball bat in the other, and no dog by my side.  The kitchen was empty, but the fridge was indeed open a good 8 inches, not just ajar.  I shut it and then looked all around for a burglar munching on Greek yogurt or pickles (the only things left in the fridge these days).  But there was none to be found.

I glanced at the cat stretched out in the middle of the living room floor and tried to ascertain whether he looked guilty.  He sometimes climbs atop the fridge and I suppose he might have knocked it open while dismounting.  On my way back to bed I went over the physics of this in my head to determine if it might be possible.  Presumably, when jumping off the fridge, a cats paws would push against the fridge, actually closing the door, no?

I climbed back into bed, baseball bat still in hand and lie there awake for the better part of an hour, listening to every sound in the house.  I figured the burglar was hiding down in the basement, waiting for me to fall asleep before returning to the kitchen to finish snacking.  Apparently they out-waited me because I woke hours later, baseball bat still in the bed where my husband should have been.   

I will be very happy to have my hubby back home tonight.

And The Winner Is....

If you answered "C" to the previous post, give yourself a pat on the back.  You win.  Here's how it went down:


4:45pm: Pizza.  Success.

5:15pm: Bath.  Marginal success.  Had to coerce Q into the tub with promise of new pack of silly bands.

5:45pm: Popcorn.  Success.

6:00 - 7:15pm: A Bug's Life.  Half Success.  Tai enjoyed it so much that the moment it ended he asked, "Can we watch it one more time?"  Predictably, Quynh talked loudly through the first 20 minutes and then lost interest.

7:30pm: Stories in Tai's room.  Marginal Success.  Lots of flopping around and getting up off  the mattress.  Not exactly a calming atmosphere.

7:45pm:  Tuck-in.  Success Unclear.

7:46pm: "Hi Tai!!!  Tai!  Tai!  Hi Tai!" emanates from behind the closed door.

7:47 - 8:30pm: They emerge from the room approximately 95 times.  Tai's exits seem legit.  "Quynh is playing with the tissue box."  And, "Quynh took my bookmark out of Charlotte's Web."  Quynh's exits were hilariously frivolous.  First of all, because she can't operate a doorknob, they began with, "Tai, open this door for me!!"  And then she emerged to ask me, "Um.  Um.  ummmmmmm......where's Buttons?"  And then, "Whatchya doin?"  And then, "Who's talkin'?"  And about 16 other things. 

8:30-8:40pm:  Relative silence.  I fool myself into thinking they *might* actually be settling down.

8:40-8:45pm: Her Majesty needs a pillow.  I can hear Quynh ordering Tai around in there.  "Taaaaaiiiii!  I need my baby doll!  Taiiiii, I need my blanket!" etc. etc. etc.

8:46pm:  They come out and Tai asks that Quynh be returned (by force, if necessary) to her room. My boy always knows when he really needs to sleep.  But his sister does not have the same shut-off switch. 

8:55pm:  All is quiet.  Each child is asleep in their own room.  Why on Earth did I try to have it any other way?

9:24pm:  Here I sit, glass of wine in front of me.  Ready to crawl into my own bed with my book.  Good Night.

Shouldn't Someone be Talking Me Out of This?

I've decided to let my kids have a sleepover tomorrow night.

Tai has been asking for about a full year now when his sister can sleep over in his room.  His desire to have her sleep in there with him is so genuine and so sweet that I feel like I have to take advantage of that sentiment before they are bratty middle-schoolers who want nothing to do with each other.

Being a glutton for punishment, I've decided that now is a good time to try this.  You know, I'm already extra stressed and exhausted these days, so I might as well set up a situation that will likely result in less sleep for all of us.  Why the hell not?

So, tomorrow night we will dine on pizza, get into our PJs, pop some popcorn, and watch a movie.  Then I'll tuck both kids in on the queen-sized air mattress on the floor of Tai's room and see what happens.

I'm not worried about Tai.  He's had a good friend sleepover several times and it has always worked well.  They goof around for an hour or two after lights out and then Tai finally gets fed up and moves to his bed to get some good sleep.  But I have no idea what Quynh will do in this situation.  She's always slept either in her crib or in bed with us.  The freedom to roll around on (or get off of!) the air mattress may go to her head.  She may get silly, or she may get confused and scared.  And, knowing her, she may get naked.

Place your bets now, folks.  Who thinks that:

(a) I'll end up sleeping on the air mattress with them
(b) One or both of them will end up in my bed
(c) Quynh will end up back in her crib
(d) No one will get any sleep

Wish me luck?

Scenes From an Italian Restaurant

5:00pm -- We arrive at a Cloth Napkin Restaurant for Father's Day Dinner.

5:05pm -- Tai is banging his butter knife on the glass-top table.
Suddenly his appetizer plate is on his head. Then his napkin is on his head.


5:09pm -- Tai has a time-out in the bar-height chair at the foot of the stairs.

5:11pm -- Quynh whines and begs to have a turn in the "tall chair."

5:15pm -- Shortly after we order our drinks, Tai bursts into song.  "Beer and wine!  Beer and wine!  That's what Daddy likes best!"

5:35pm -- Tai claims "tummy-ache" and needs to lay down on the booth next to me, very nearly kicking some other patrons along the way.  However, a brief reminder of the possibility of dessert caused the tummy ache to fade and more meatballs to be eaten.

5:45pm -- While Tai was too shy to ask the waiter if they had juice, resulting in his having to drink water, Quynh does not have the same inhibitions.  Toward the end of the meal she pretty much flagged our server down and asked loudly, "Do you have chocolate?"

5:47pm -- A flourless chocolate torte with chocolate ganache and whipped cream was placed in front of my children.

5:49pm -- Torte was gone.

While it started out looking like a disaster waiting to happen, the kids eventually both ate well and chocolate always improves everyone's mood.  After dinner we let them run around a playground for an hour and they had a blast.

8:03pm -- Both kids in bed, sound asleep.

Happy Father's Day!

What I Will Miss

Yes, I have decided that moving is the best decision for our family.  And yes, I will be disappointed if we can't find someone to buy our house.  But I do love my house, and my neighborhood, and there are many things I will miss if we do indeed move.

(1) My neighbors (and not just because some of them read this blog).  Seriously, our amazing neighbors are the thing we'll miss the most, hands down.  We'll certainly try to buy in another neighborhood with quiet streets and hopefully with young families, but we know we'll never re-create the magic that we found in our current spot.  Where else are we going to find folks willing to babysit at the drop of a hat, turn on their sprinklers the day after it rains just so my kids can run through them, or buy us multiple obnoxious holiday decorations without asking us?  Where else will we have neighbors who let us use their swing set when their not home, or those who take our dog into their home for an entire weekend if we are away?  I do hope we'll find another group of people willing to stand out in the middle of the street and chat on a warm summer evening, even if they are not crazy enough to share Minh's love of renting heavy-duty tools.

(2) My house.  Literally, the physical house.  I really do love it.  I love my bedroom, and my master bathroom.  I love my nice big living room and my dining room.  I adore my floor-to-ceiling pantry.  And I love the playroom the most.  How am I ever going to live without that amazing playroom, the we just built?  Of course there are other houses out in the world with master bathrooms, and playrooms, and even with 2-car garages and central AC.  But I find it hard to believe I'll find one (that we can afford) that I will love as much as this one.

(3) My yard.  Specifically, my kids' trees, which are are planted in the back and nourished by their placentas.  (Gross?  A little.  But the kids, Tai anyway, knows why those are their special trees and I think he likes the idea.  And I always thought we'd get to see those trees grow up alongside our kids.)

(4) Speaking of....I'm going to miss the chance to watch the kids grow up in this house.  Yes, I'll still get to watch them grow, but not in the place I've been picturing it.  Six months ago we were envisioning how we would adapt the playroom to be a student office for doing homework, you know, when the kids reached middle school.  And now it's looking like this particular playroom won't be used that way--not by our kids, anyway.  And how sad is it that Quynh will probably have no memory of this house and neighborhood?

(5) The campus across the street.  I love being able to walk the dog over there, and take the kids to run around the lake.  Not to mention that Tai was just getting to the age where he was enjoying concerts and other events on the campus.

(6) The steady stream of undergraduate dog-walkers.  We acquired one great dog walker after another by asking each one that graduated to recommend a friend to take over.  We already have someone lined up for the fall...but will we still be here?

(7) Living a mere 5 minutes from a great little sprinkler park/playground.  This in invaluable, all summer long.

(8) Cindy's Drive-In.  Living only 10 minutes from a place with great food, ice cream, and tons of toys to occupy the kids is perhaps more important than the sprinkler park.  It's the only place that Minh and I get to sit and eat our meals in peace because the kids can go run around while they wait for their dinner and again after they finish.  It's fantastic.

There are probably 50 more things I'm really going to hate to leave, but I take them for granted and won't miss them until they're gone.  

Happy Birthday Quynh!

My "baby" girl is two years old today.

May 2009

May 2010

May 2011

Emotional Rollercoaster

Despite having all these grand plans about waiting for the right moment, calling a family meeting, and telling Tai about our plans to attempt to sell the house and move to another town, I panicked the other day and blurted it all out 5 minutes before we had to leave for swim class.

The news was not well-received.

He had already overheard plenty of talk of looking at other houses and possibly moving for kindergarten, so I was a little surprised that he flipped out.  I think it was the description of how our house will be sold (pictures taken, posted online, people can see if they want to buy it, etc).  He burst into tears, yelling, "I don't want to leave our house!" and "I don't want our house to go to the house store!"  My attempts to explain that moving could be both sad and exciting fell on deaf ears. 

Eventually, it devolved into "I don't wanna go to swim class!"  Having already paid for 8 weeks of swim class, and knowing we're going to have to miss 2 of them, I was furious with myself for the timing of this tantrum.  When gentle cajoling and promises of snacks after class didn't work, I promised a movie after lunch if he would just go to effing swim class.  He calmed down immediately.

About 36 hours later, while driving around town, Tai announced from the back seat, "Mama, I'm looking out for houses that might be good for our family.  I just saw one with a pool that I might like to move to.  I want to move now."  He then went on to tell me he likes the ones with pools, (of course) and the ones with decks on the roofs (duh) and he got very excited at the one with a camper in the yard and the one with a boat in the driveway.

I find this particularly adorable because I can remember house-hunting with my parents when I was about seven.  I was dragged on painfully long car rides to an infinite number of houses.  And all I cared about was: (1) is it red?  and (2) is there a pool?*   

So, despite my own mixed emotions about possibly moving, now I can start worrying that we won't be able to sell the house and get my kid the roof-deck-swimming-pool-camper-boat-house with cool rooms that he has his heart set on.



****Just for those who might be curious, we ended up in a grey house with no pool, 5 houses up the street from where we had been living.